“Stop telling women that we should find ourselves beautiful and that we should love ourselves when you are standing right there, judging us on how our knees look in short skirts and how prominent our boobs are in a sweater and how much makeup we are or are not wearing.
Instead of us working harder on “love your body” and “find your inner beauty”, the rest of the world should be working harder on “stop telling women their bodies are a shameful place to live but that if they’re strong enough, they will learn to embrace that shame.”
This is my body. It’s not “beautiful”. I don’t “love it”. I don’t have to. I don’t have to have any strong feelings about my body. And whatever feelings I do have are not somehow invalid if they’re not glowing reviews.”
I don’t 100% agree with the article, but I agree with the general sentiment. Mostly the bolded stuff (obviously).
(Bolded text bolded by me.)
I wish I had gotten a cosmetology license in high school.
I think that would have been a blast.
I really dislike it when people whine about being forever alone.
Why? Because most people do not really end up forever alone.
If we want to talk within the scope of what God has in store for each and every one of us, then, quite frankly, I believe that a lifetime of singleness is something that God has called a minority to. And when he does, it is not without some great purpose, for example, they would not be able to love on others with nearly as much time as they do if they were married. Also, if you are walking with Christ, then you’re obviously not alone, because God has always got your back, and is always by your side.
If we are talking in purely secular terms, let’s be real. There are a lot of people in relationships. Even people that are less than ideal… No, especially people that are less than ideal, since nobody is ideal. But really, if you think you’re forever alone because you’re ugly/fat/shy/dumb/other negative, shallow attribute, well, I have news for you- there are tons of ugly/fat/shy/dumb/otherwise unattractive people out there who are in stable relationships, even marriages. And before you think that you’ll only ever get similarly unattractive people, that isn’t necessarily true, either. I’m sure many of us have passed by a couple and done a double take, and thought to ourselves, “Wow, how did he/she get her/him?!” This might be rude, but I think it’s something that most people can understand what I’m talking about.
Let’s be clear that I’m not calling anybody ugly/fat/dumb- I’m just saying that if you think you’re forever alone because you think that you are something along those lines, then you are mistaken. The purpose of this post is not to reverse any negative things you may feel about yourself.
Of course, there’s always the whole “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” perspective, which I think holds a lot of truth in it.
I know that a lot of people are just kidding when they whine about such things. But there are people who really believe that they are forever alone, and those people need to put things into perspective.
A few things of foundation and face powder. I was more in love with the idea of them. One is a kind of fancy brand, with a really nice texture, but is a bit too yellow for me. The face powder is not too bad, but I just don’t use it. The third foundation is one of those roll-on ones. I bought it because it was very much on sale, and a blogger I follow had recently given it a positive review. Hehehe.
Perhaps I will use them if/when my skin gets worse with age.
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
I know these to be true.
However, is it wrong to personally find someone to be physically unattractive?
I get that everyone has his or her own set of aesthetics. So obviously, somebody that person A personally thinks is ugly is probably viewed as good, or at least average, looking in the eyes of person B. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, blah blah.
Is it sinful to think that somebody is ugly, and not just in their personality? Because doesn’t that essentially boil down to thinking that God’s creation is ugly? That he messed something up?
Honestly speaking, though, most people that I have ever found to be physically unattractive- and I do not just mean “not particularly attractive” or “average”- I have found to be at least average, if not more so, after getting to know them. And, of course, there are definitely cases in which someone’s rotten personality just solidified my negative opinion of their physical appearance. But for people I initially found to be attractive with nasty personalities… I don’t know. In my own experience, I don’t think I’ve ever met somebody whose personality was so nasty that it dropped my opinion of his/her physical appearance from anywhere above average to anywhere below average. At most, it dropped them to about average or so. But I can’t even think of such an instance.
Interesting how personality affects things.
This is just an incomplete thought, but I wanted to flesh out in words.
I just went through over 500 tagged pictures on Facebook of this one girl who I sort of know.
There isn’t a single one in which you see her teeth.
The few where she is actually openly smiling, her face is pointed downwards, or her hand is covering her mouth (she seems to be laughing really hard in those pictures).
She’s undoubtedly beautiful, with great facial bone structure, and, quite honestly, a pretty nice body. Haha.
You can tell she’s happy- because, kind of like in America’s Next Top Model, when Tyra tells models to smile with their eyes, you can see in this girl’s eyes that she’s definitely happy.
But… I just find it so weird, and almost eerily strange that this girl never smiles with her teeth. I may be wrong, but I don’t think her teeth are anything to be ashamed of, either. Then again, I don’t know that, because I I just feel like she’s always hiding something. But what, exactly, does she have to hide?haven’t seen her in a while, and I was never great friends her to begin with.
Never before have I seen somebody who smiled so much without showing her teeth. Even people that are self-conscious of their teeth show their teeth more often than this girl, so it seems.